Effectiveness of your act is determined by your response

Something upsetting may happen to you today, tomorrow or any other day. Nothing unusual!

That’s life.

Someone may be impolite.

You could hear something that irritates you.

A colleague may blame you for something, or someone may disparage you unjustly.

Your initial reaction may be to get enraged.

It’s quite normal.

We’re all guilty of it.

However, just because something is normal does not imply it is the best way to behave.

The repercussions of giving in to rage in the face of unwarranted criticism will have a profoundly detrimental influence on you.

It has the potential to prevent you from achieving your objectives.

The other person to whom you target your rage is unlikely to be bothered by it, if at all.

Having a grudge against someone is like to consuming poison and expecting the other person to become ill.

Avoid being caught in the trap.

Every day, people are duped into matching negativity with negativity.

Spending five minutes on a discussion forum or reading tweets is all it takes to understand how simple it is to lose control of one’s rage.

Sure, shouting may make you feel better for a while, but does it solve or cure the problem?

Certainly not!

Arguing with a disrespectful person merely gives them more reasons to be unpleasant.

How many times have you gotten into a yelling battle and walked away believing it was incredibly constructive?

Almost definitely, the answer is never.

We live in an angry and critical society where everyone claims to be an expert on, well, everything.

If you don’t protect your ideas and mind, it’s simple to get engulfed in a spinning vortex of rage, resentment, and inefficiency.

Separating the wheat from the chaff

Not all negative criticism is as worthless as the donkey’s braying at the lion.

The donkey was just out to cause trouble.

However, you should not dismiss every criticism.

We must all recognize and act on helpful comments.

The challenge is determining which comments to take seriously and which to disregard.

Here are three important prerequisites for constructive and useful negative feedback:

It’s compassionate: You hear criticism in a manner that demonstrates the deliverer’s concern.

This kind of feedback is priceless.

However, if someone is merely raving about something negative, the critique isn’t actually aimed at helping you.

This sort of feedback should be ignored.

It is specific: Criticism should focus on the relevant aspects of your ideas or performance and provide clear recommendations for improvement.

It is simple to point out flaws, but it is more difficult to give remedies.

Look for solutions in the form of feedback.

If you don’t locate any, it’s better to disregard it.

It’s a good fit: Criticism should be compatible with your emotions, objectives, and motivation.

Personal assaults or general negativity that does not help you progress should be avoided.

A handful of things become clear quite immediately when using these three criteria for judging criticism.

To begin with, you should definitely reject more than 95 percent of the criticism since most criticism is generic, furious, random, and so unspecific that you can’t do anything except become upset.

Second, finding helpful, actionable input from random persons you don’t know or trust is difficult.

Instead, you will almost always get constructive comments from trustworthy friends, family, and coworkers.

Improve your capacity to accept and evaluate comments.

The greatest strategy is to dismiss people who incite rage, those critics, those whining donkeys, right immediately.

Resist such critiques right now and avoid being drawn into the perhaps unwinnable quagmire of rage.

It’s not worth it.

It is difficult to return to a healthy state after allowing anger to sweep you away.

The truth is that your emotions are choices.

You have the option of choosing fury over calm.

You have the option of choosing suffering over pleasure.

Stop spending your time being enraged about things that are completely unrelated to your aims and desires.

Never imagine that yelling at inanimate things, people, or circumstances would make a difference.

Let the enraged critics fend for themselves.

A calm demeanor improves any circumstance.

The truth is that no matter what you accomplish in life, you will encounter detractors.

People who are the most successful in life identify and guide their emotions toward good ends.

You have an option.

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Binay Srivastava

Binay Srivastava

I am Binay, writer, author, and editor. I am an electrical engineering graduate. ezinearticles.com, issuu.com, and many newspapers have published my articles.